Adam and I met with a good female friend the other night for dinner. The conversation veered towards the topic of jealousy and possessive relationships. Our female friend is in a budding relationship, where she self-classifies herself with her boyfriend as "going steady" (and by the way, we spent all of the entree course dissecting that distinction between "merely friends" and "boyfriend / girlfriend", which are - after 30 minutes of discussion - lesser commitments than "going steady"). Anyways, our female friend thought that it was okay to shamelessly flirt. Which she's done on multiple occasions and doesn't plan to stop, because "that's just her playful personality."
Now, disregarding HER actions, her boyfriend was immediately taken aback by it .... but not just taken aback, he makes a big deal about it ... he yells at her in public, he makes them leave the premises, and he even verbally threatened the (presumably innocent) guy with whom she was flirting with. Then again, they were at a bar and the other guy should have noticed her boyfriend before he asked for her number.
Adam thought it was romantic. He likes the idea of having a possessive man, and likened it a white knight. I thought it was way overboard, and her boyfriend never should have made a public spectacle out of the problem.
At the same time, Adam rightfully pointed out to me that - in public - I've always pulled him in tighter or physically held him when we talk with other (good-looking) guys. I've also glared at him when he's off intently chatting with some other guy or I'll meander on over to join the conversation and butted in. But I mean, Adam is mine, right? Body, soul, dick, and heart ... he is wholly mine.
So I wanted to ask YOU on just how much "jealousy" and "possessiveness" you think couples can or should properly exhibit? And where does it cross the line from "you're my boyfriend" to "don't you dare talk to anyone else"?
Three guys from Corbin Fisher / Bel Ami who apparently have NO PROBLEMS with jealousy or possessiveness.