I was born and grew up in Munich, Bavaria. Bavaria is part of Germany, Germany is part of Europe. My origin is a part of me and I don't want to deny my roots, but I don't feel as Bavarian or as German. I don't want to think within those boundaries. I'm just a human being, living on earth - not more, not less.
At some point I found out that I was not only interested in women, but also in men. The latter has become even more prevalent than I ever thought.
My first relationship with a man turned out not to be good for me. It was a gradual process that he isolated me from family and friends. Later he beat and raped me. He apologized and regretted it and I forgave him because I loved him. But it happened again and again. At some time I reached the point where I only had two options left. Either I disappear in the dead of night, afraid he'll find me, or I kill myself. Guess what option I chose.
I literally started a new life. I escaped to another town, changed my name. My middle name became my first name. That's why you know Tommy aka Thomas. For the first few months I lived in my old rickety car, continued my studies and had several jobs on the side. When I finished my studies and earned my first doctorate in economics, I was still living in a very nice flat-sharing community.
My sex life can be classified as excessive. I had countless one-night stands. I never wanted a relationship again.
To make a long story short, almost ten years ago I fell in love unexpectedly. Today he is not only my best friend and the love of my life but also my husband since last month.
My friend @RunItsBlip wrote recently in a thread of me:
change is neither good or bad
good is good
bad is bad
change is change
and all three are
on occasion necessary
Bad things happened to me, good things happened to me. I don't want to miss anything that's happened to me in my life. It made me the person I am today. I know that I can get up again when I fall.
Life is an adventure, life is change.
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