It has now been a little over a month since I first raised this subject.
What has changed since then?
Almost nothing has changed for me or us. The days became shorter and the temperatures dropped a little bit. We celebrated a few birthdays within eight days. The birthday celebrations were unconventional this time. These were two physically separated parties at exactly the same time at different locations, which were connected via video chat. Everyone has enjoyed it anyway.
What I want to say is that there are always situations in our lives that cannot be changed. It would not have been possible for us to travel to Germany for this, as it was planned before. If there is no chance to change the situation, you have to make the best of it. That's what we did.
I read a status update earlier: "Since the weather isn't going to cooperate with me this week with my quest to work on my all body tan & tanning needs, looks like I will be resorting to the tanning bed. Actually will be going to a different tanning business from my original one today!"
We cannot control the weather. However, we can find an alternative how to get the desired full body tan. 👍
What other options do we have if we cannot change a situation? Whining? Swearing? Does this help?
Trust me, I loved to complain about everything. However, I have realized that this does not help me. On the contrary, it leads to a situation where you keep yourself trapped in bad feelings, negative thoughts.
I still complain sometimes. But today it's a signal that I'm not happy with something. Through this awareness I am able to use a negative factor to create a more positive situation.
What is the reason that you feel uncomfortable, unhappy? Do you know the reason? Have you made an inventory of your life? If your answer is no, you should do it.
You have to know what you have, who you are, what your position in life is in order to develop into the desired direction. What are your weaknesses, what are your strengths? What are your dreams? What are your goals? Do you have any?
If you have a dream that you want to make come true, you first have to check if it is realistic. If my dream, my goal, were to be President of the United States of America, it would be completely unrealistic. The reason is not that I can't use Twitter, but I am neither a born American nor an American. The latter could be changed.
The bigger the goal, the more short and medium-term intermediate objectives are needed. There are always setbacks. These setbacks show that you are on your way. They help you to re-analyse yourself and offer the opportunity for modifications. Let us assume you are unhappy with your weight and want to lose 12 kg within 6 months. After a month of healthier nutrition and exercise, you weigh yourself again and the scale shows that you have lost one kilogram.
Do you start whining now and tell yourself that you will never reach the goal? Are you blaming me because you ate my delicious cake? How about looking at this in a positive light. You've lost weight. You enjoyed exercising. You took the first steps. That's great. Adjust (extend) your time frame to get rid of the next 11 kilograms.
What I want to say with all this. It's up to us how we handle a situation, what we make of it.
We are how we think.
What and how do you think?